3 ways TO BE SOMEONE, WHO APPRECIATES YOU.

Are you worried thinking:
How to move from lack to abundance? How to apply your abundance?
The answer is the feel, emotion, and thought process of APPRECIATION

I teach people to love themselves by knowing and accepting themselves.
I don’t agree with the thought that we are responsible for everything that happens to us and their subsequent consequences through the weird feeling and absolutely unjustified thought process we go through.
But, I truly believe that we could control and work out our disturbing feelings. We do create our life experiences through our thinking and feeling patterns, the thoughts we think, and the words we speak are enormously powerful.

Very often these thoughts we have, the words we use, the decisions we make at a tender age are greater enough to help us survive in what may be a very difficult situation for us, then.

Unfortunately, we often carry it forward as adults and we keep on operating out of our 3-year-old mentality or a 3-year-old decision and that often doesn’t work in our life

“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.” 

– eden ahbez

Being with someone who appreciates you as much as you do them is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world. Having someone love you can help you to fully love yourself and will encourage you to lead your best and most confident life. Sadly, sometimes we end up with people who don’t cherish us as they should. It can be soul-destroying to be in this kind of relationship. https://thepowerofsilence.co/you-deserve-to-be-with-someone-who-appreciates-you/

GROUND CAUSE OF NOT APPRECIATING ONESELF

Unfortunately, we learn a lot of stuff like decision making, what to be bothered about, what to be sensitive about, how to react, what to reply what not to be worried about; from our parents.
And, they are literally not to be blamed for any of the insufficient beliefs we develop in ourselves through insufficient learnings because how can someone teach you something that they even don’t know how to do?
Unfortunately, if you find them not loving themselves, how could they have taught you to be so.

So, whatever you learn during your childhood, it’s neither in the control of those who taught you nor in your control because you were being unconscious of learning.

Accept, It is how it is!

PATHWAY TO LEAD YOURSELF TO A SELF-APPRECIATIVE ATTITUDE

It literally doesn’t matter how wrong your childhood decisions were, or whatsoever your childhood fear was which has grown within you like a trauma. All that matters is what you are going to do today to get yourself out of it.

The last option you are left with is – “loving yourself”.
Because, when you really love and appreciate yourself and acknowledge who you are in this point of time and space it would be like little miracles begin to flow for you. It would be like starting to get the green signals in life instead of red flags.

I’m not focussing upon ” vanity” or “arrogant” because that is not strength, that is fear, that is a way of dealing with your insecurities, and that should not be the agenda anyhow.

I’m focusing upon just appreciating the being you are.

3 WAYS TO APPRECIATE YOURSELF

1. STOP HOLDING YOURSELF BACK

The problem is…
It is our subconscious mind that where we are holding, which says, ‘nothing new could happen because:
– I live like this.
– I have been like this.
– I have grown up like this.

The change would come through…
What you need to do is, you need to let the new in; say:
– I’m open to new.
– I’m willing to welcome the change.
– I’m ready to grow.

2. POSITIVE SELF-TALK

Do mirror work!
When you get up in the morning, go to the mirror before you do anything or whenever you are at your most delightfully. And, say:
– I love you.
– What can I do for you, today?
– How can I make you feel happy?

You may not get an answer for a while because that part of you doesn’t trust you.
But, if you start practicing this often, on daily basis you could certainly feel a very good connection and it would come out to be a healing thing to do ultimately.

And, if you find it difficult to do. Realize and be truthful to yourself that you are feeling the discomfort to look into your eyes and say confidently to yourself that you don’t owe the responsibility to build happiness for yourself.
Then, ask yourself what did this nonsense behavior means and comes from?
Ultimately, start working on it.

3. REMEMBER THE BABY THOUGHT PROCESS

Remember little tiny babies, when they are born, they absolutely love themselves, as in:
– They are totally open.
– They are full of love.
– They express themselves freely.
– They ask for what they want.
All because they are not taught with guilt and shame. They just know how wonderful they are.

How our attitude gets wrong?

Being a child, somewhere along the line we get this idea that, ‘we are not good enough.’ As in:
We begin having self-doubt about whether we are acceptable or not?

In reality, it doesn’t make sense, literally.

What you need to remember about yourself is:
– You are a divine and magnificent expression of life within ourselves.
– When we look at another being around us, we are just seeing a unique individual and you are not meant to look alike.
– Our belief should not be to be like someone. What makes us unique is being accepted in our unique selves.

Remember! We are meant to be different and unique.