We know what learning is, learn is a very important process in our life from birth till death it is an ongoing process. In psychology, learning means a relatively permanent changing behavior brought about through practice or experience.
“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn. ”
― Alvin Toffler
We learn; languages, believes, attitude, and perception. Learning is an endless process, still we possess something which let us declutter that the learnings that no longer serves your progress as a person, it is called unlearning.
Unlearning is something when over the years we learn a lot some of which are doesn’t let us grow, let go, and move on. We engage in certain unpleasant behaviors due those holding back lessons, we eventually learn while get going with our life.
Practice ‘De Vuja’ and consult your ‘future self’
Think of a challenge or opportunity you’re currently facing and imagine you are looking at it for the very first time. Or step into the shoes of Doc from Back to the Future and imagine its 2050 and you’re looking back thirty years at the situation you are in today. How do you see it differently? https://www.forbes.com/sites/margiewarrell/2020/06/12/learn-unlearn–relearn-what-got-you-here-wont-get-you-there/?sh=5e14bda820a6
7 HABITS YOU SHOULD LEARN TO UNLEARN
1. TRYING TO CHANGE PEOPLE
You can’t change people so don’t drive yourself crazy trying. Instead, just change how you deal with them. And, if healthy dealing not even works out better to stay away from the toxicity as much as possible.
The one who does want to change is who doesn’t see issues in their actions. And, until the personal acknowledgment of the root cause is absent the issue could not be addressed anyhow.
2. YELLING TO GET YOUR WAY
We catch ourselves doing it all the time. Out of stress, frustration, irritation, and anger. The more others disobey the more we find ourselves yelling. The reason is the solution even that, Why won’t they listen?
Two reasons stand against it. Either your approach is harsh, dominating, less negotiating, and not respecting others’ part by being a speaker not a listen. Or, the other person doesn’t value your words and you maintain silence other than yelling.
Both ways there persists an unhealthy communication relationship. Before you yell, acknowledge what makes you tell, your action, or their reaction. By giving a pause before yelling you could judge your communication skills wisely.
3. IGNORING YOUR NEEDS
The foremost reason you ignore your needs is that you must be busy pleasing people who are least bothered by your existence. Again, it’s not about choosing the right person to invest your emotions, efforts, and time. What matters is to make yourself stand accountable for your fulfilled life.
It would cost a change of perspective when your world would revolve around you. When your thought process would know what it is to keep a check on the returns of your satisfaction from wherever you invest every second of your precious time.
4. TRYING TO WIN AN ARGUMENT
You know that saying, “It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it?” That is only partly accurate. It matters greatly what you say as well. Unfortunately, many people are not conscious of how to have effective communication. And, they unintentionally and eventually fall into an argument.
But, remember no excuse to stand against a ruined relationship. It’s better to learn the basics of being a speaker and being a listener at times.
You need to be conscious about other persons’ body language, as you must be knowing action speaks better than words.
5. COMPARING TO OTHERS
There must be at least one point in our lives where we heard the question ‘What would you like to change about yourself?’. And how many times would we get an answer that would sound something like ‘It would be quite nice if I am a better version of myself just like him or her?
Here lies the issue. You don’t need to watch out for your better version in someone else.
Rather, you need to be conscious about your commitments, how contentful is your approach, how healthy is your mindset, how far could you go with your present mind-body-soul connection.
6. NEGATIVE SELF TALK
It’s those days when you feel like things are not going your way, you’re not good enough, or aren’t looking the way you would like to.
For many people, it can be something they do every day because it’s easy to get used to negative self-talk so much that it becomes an invisible part of your thinking.
Moreover, it’s easy to get through than work on yourself to reach your presumed future self.
7. SELF SABOTAGING
It can be easy to forget the power of our subconscious minds. We usually have no idea how our actions (or inactions) affect our lives.
We may complain that things never go our way, we are unlucky, or we don’t have what it takes to succeed in life but what we don’t realize is that we are creating our fate through subconscious self-sabotage.
Any such uncertainty, fear, or doubt, they will find a way to ensure failure this way. So, don’t be so!
UNLEARNING IS COMPARATIVELY PRODUCTIVE THAN LEARNING
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