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How to stop worrying and start living? Book summary by Farheen Dhanjal

First things first!

The first thing you should know about worry is this: if you want to keep it out of your
life, do what Sir William Osier did –

1. Shut the iron doors on the past and the future. Live in Day-tight Compartments
Why not ask yourself these questions, and write down the answers?
1. Do I tend to put off living in the present to worry about the future or to yearn for some “magical rose garden over the horizon”?
2. Do I sometimes embitter the present by regretting things that happened in the past-
that is over and done with?
3. Do I get up in the morning determined to “Seize the day”-to get the utmost out of
these twenty-four hours?
4. Can I get more out of life by “living in day-tight compartments”?
5. When shall I start to do this? Next week? .. Tomorrow? … Today?

I keep six honest serving-men:
Their names are What and Why and When
And How and Where and Who.

-Rudyard Kipling

RULES TO DEAL WITH DIFFERENT WORRIES

I. How To Break The Worry Habit Before It Breaks You?

RULE 1: Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping busy. Plenty of action is one of the
best therapies ever devised for curing “Webber gibbers”.
RULE 2: Don’t fuss about trifles. Don’t permit little things-the mere termites of life-to
ruin your happiness.
RULE 3: Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries. Ask yourself: “What are the
odds against this thing’s happening at all?”
RULE 4: Co-operate with the inevitable. If you know a circumstance is beyond your
power to change or revise, say to yourself “It is so; it cannot be otherwise.”
RULE 5: Put a “stop-loss” order on your worries. Decide just how much anxiety a thing
may be worth-and refuse to give it anymore.
RULE 6: Let the past bury its dead. Don’t see sawdust.

II. How to cultivate A Mental Attitude That Will Bring You Peace And Happiness?

RULE 1: Let’s fill our minds with thoughts of peace, courage, health, and hope, for ‘ ‘our
life is what our thoughts make it”.
RULE 2: Let’s never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt
ourselves far more than we hurt them. Let’s do as General Eisenhower does: let’s never
waste a minute thinking about people we don’t like.
RULE 3: A. Instead of worrying about ingratitude, let’s expect it. Let’s remember that Jesus healed ten lepers in one day-and only one thanked Him. Why should we expect
more gratitude than Jesus got?
B. Let’s remember that the only way to find happiness is not to gratitude but gratitude-but to give for the joy of giving.
C. Let’s remember that gratitude is a “cultivated” trait; so if we want our children to be grateful, we must train them to be grateful.
RULE 4: Count your blessings, not your troubles!
RULE 5: Let’s not imitate others. Let’s find ourselves and be ourselves, for “envy is
ignorance” and “imitation is suicide”.
RULE 6: When fate hands us a lemon, let’s try to make lemonade.
RULE 7: Let’s forget unhappiness by unhappiness-by trying to create a little happiness for others. “When you are good to others, you are best to yourself.”

III. How To Keep From Worrying About Criticism?

RULE 1: Unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. It often means that you have
aroused jealousy and envy. Remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog.
RULE 2: Do the very best you can, and then put up your old umbrella and keep the rain
of criticism from running down the back of your neck.
RULE 3: Let’s keep a record of the foolish things we have done and criticise ourselves.
Since we can’t hope to be perfect, let’s do what E. H. Little did: let’s ask for unbiased,
helpful, constructive criticism.

IV. How to prevent Fatigue And Worry And Keep Your Energy And Spirits High?

RULE 1: Rest before you get tired.
RULE 2: Learn to relax at your work.
RULE 3: If you are a housewife, protect your health and appearance by relaxing at home
RULE 4: Apply these four good working habits-
a. Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at
hand.
b. Do things in the order of their importance.
c. When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts necessary too
make a decision.
d. Learn to organise, deputise, and supervise.
RULE 5: To prevent worry and fatigue, put enthusiasm into your work.
RULE 6: Remember, no one was ever killed by lack of sleep. It is worrying about
insomnia that does the damage-not the insomnia

V. How to break the worry habit?

Rule 1. Find out precisely what problem you are worried about.
Rule 2. Find out the cause of the problem.
Rule 3. Do something constructive at once about solving the problem.

VI. What art the rules for the rest of your life?

Rule 1. Avoid worry. Never worry about anything, under any kind of circumstances.
Rule 2. Relax, and take plenty of mild exercise in the open air.
Rule 3. Watch your diet. Always stop eating while you’re still a little hungry.

VII. How to avoid resentment and worry over ingratitude?

Rule 1: Instead of worrying about ingratitude, let’s expect it. Let’s remember that Jesus
healed ten lepers in one day-and only one thanked Him. Why should we expect more
gratitude than Jesus got?
Rule 2: Let’s remember that the only way to find happiness is not to expect gratitude, but to give for the joy of giving.
Rule 3: Let’s remember that gratitude is a “cultivated” trait; so if we want our children to be grateful, we must train them to be grateful.

Quick fix remedies to your worries from the book

I. If you have a worrying problem, apply the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier
by doing these three things-

1. Ask yourself,’ ‘What is the worst that can happen?”
2. Prepare to accept it if you have to.
3. Then calmly proceed to improve on the worst.

II. To reduce your worries by fifty per cent. Here they are again:
1. What is the problem?
2. What is the CAUSE of the problem?
3. What are all possible solutions to the problem?
4. What solution do you suggest?

III. Motto rhyme:
For every ailment under the sun.
There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it;
If there be none, never mind it.

Count your blessings, not your troubles!

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Published by FARHEEN DHANJAL

I am besides being a self-help writer and podcaster am a lawyer as well. I sense an intense inclination towards the power of words; their placing, usage moreover the power of interpretation they possess in law as well as philosophy. My writings are an outcome of great mind processing, notion understanding, and articulation skills as I write: – Concrete and straightforward, – Therapy and self-help, and – Professional and guidance.

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